or He's got the look; either way you want to make first contact with a profile you've seen online.
What's the best way to go? Most dating sites offer a preset message option that all basically say "I'm Into You," but ignore it. That is cheating (and lame). Send an actual message and within the message comment on something about their profile. This shows that 1. you actually read their profile and 2. you aren't only concerned with looks because you looked beyond the pictures.
The message doesn't have to be long or funny or even creative but it does have to show thought. Try to be friendly and introduce yourself. It is a good idea to ask a question about a hobby or interest of theirs. Unfortunately, I have had multiple messages that simply read "How are you doing?" at which point I return with "Good. How are you?". You ask a generic answer, I will give a generic response. Frankly, I didn't learn anything about the person and so didn't feel like sharing anything either. That is a slow way to start a conversation.
This form of getting to know someone does not feel comfortable at first but give it time and eventually if the emails go well you may just move to the next step of a phone call!
